Updated: Mar 13
Hello! I hope everyone is doing great! Can you believe March is here already.I want to talk to you about mindset. Yes, mindset - you know that annoying little dialogue that can make or break your success in life. The one most of us give our power to without any awareness. 🧐
Back in 2018, I went to India and saw an Ayurvedic doctor. He told me that the root of my problems was my mind. I was prescribed journaling, connecting with others, natural supplements, and Ashwagandha oil. Although I ordered the oil and supplements, I didn't use them a handful of times, nor did I start journaling or connecting with others at that time.
I was in a better place mentally than I had been a few months prior and honestly I did not understand what my mind had to do with any of my problems.However, lurking beneath the surface of my smile were feelings of boredom with life, self-hate, and a sense that something was wrong or off with me.
When I left that consultation, I remember wondering what my mind had to do with anything. While I had heard that journaling and connecting with others were good, I didn't understand why. What's amazing, is that as I look back on those questions, they have been answered time and time again.
The answers aren't always direct, but they come through the words of others, podcasts, books, YouTube videos, and conversations. The universe, God, source, or whatever you want to call it has an amazing way of putting just what you need right in front of your face—you just have to be open to receiving it and creating space for it to emerge.
So, what did the doctor mean when he said my problem was my mind? TFAR is a great way to remember how the mind affects almost everything. Thoughts (beliefs) = Feelings (emotions) = Actions = Results (reality).
When you take the time to be aware of your thoughts, you can ask yourself: What type of thoughts am I thinking? How does this feel in my body?
If you took the inner dialogue that you have about yourself and placed it into another person, would you hang out with that person? If your life sucks, probably not; if your life is fantastic, probably so.
This is a simple concept: If you believe in yourself, know your worth, and think good thoughts, you feel good. If your thoughts are negative, if self-doubt, fear, or lack are the primary thoughts, you feel bad. However, it's not simple to put this into practice—it takes a lot of effort. Many times, it feels like I have a full-time job catching my thoughts and reframing them, but I promise it's worth it.
For me to get my mindset under control, there's a list a mile long of things I do. There's no one solution. I take medication daily for anxiety, meditate daily, fill my brain with educational topics, face my fears and emotional pain, practice self-compassion, move my body, connect with nature, reach out to a friend when I feel negativity pulling me under, journal, and create space for answers to emerge. I get curious with my thoughts and question their truth. The list goes on.
My point is to pick one of these things and start there, then build on that habit. Five years later, you will not recognize yourself.
About a year ago, I was looking at an Instagram post about the five things all successful people do daily, and my jaw dropped. I have a habit of doing those things. How in the world did that happen? By taking one small step.
What is mindset? Mindset is a set of beliefs, attitudes, and assumptions that shape the way you perceive the world and approach challenges.How will having a growth/positive mindset help me?
Mindset influences how you interpret and respond to feedback and criticism.Cultivating a growth mindset can help you overcome obstacles, learn from failures, and embrace new opportunities.
A growth mindset can help you view feedback as an opportunity for growth and improvement, while a fixed mindset may cause you to feel defensive and discouraged.
Mindset can impact how you handle stress and cope with setbacks.
A growth mindset can help you stay motivated and focused during challenging times, while a fixed mindset can make you feel overwhelmed and defeated.
Having a growth mindset can help you approach relationships with openness and empathy, while a fixed mindset may lead to closed-mindedness and judgment.
What are some simple ways I can improve my mindset?
Practice gratitude by listing three things you are thankful for each day.
Set goals and break them down into achievable steps.
Cultivate a growth mindset by embracing challenges and learning from failures.
Practice mindfulness by focusing on the present moment and letting go of worries about the past or future.
Surround yourself with positive influences, such as supportive friends and inspiring role models.
Take care of your physical health by eating well, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep.
Do you need someone to hold you accountable? Someone who will call you out on your excuses and push you to be your best self? Are you ready to tame that tiger and start living again? Look no further than Orenda Life Coaching! I will be your personal hype squad, guide and cheerleader here with you every step of the way.